Special Mother’s Day post with NFL mom Wilma McNabb

Today’s post has been in the works for a long time! Credit goes to my awesome agent, Amanda Luedeke, for connecting me with Wilma “Char” McNabb, mom of retired NFL quarterback and current NFL Network and Fox Sports analyst Donovan McNabb. I’m so thankful to Char for taking the time to chat with me, and I hope you enjoy this peek into life as an NFL mom and Char’s thoughts on what it means to support her child’s dream.

Bonus: There’s a special Mother’s Day “Dream” Giveaway below including a bracelet made by someone who has long supported my dream, my sister Amy Reece. I loved the bracelet so much I asked her to make me one, too. Details below.

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A Mother’s Heart on the Field

“Who writes a book about football…when she knows nothing about football?”

A question very close to this appears in my new book, From the Start. A book with a football thread. Written by a girl who, you guessed it, pretty much knew nothing about the sport when she started out.

Thanks to some amazingly helpful friends, I made it through the story and I don’t think my cluelessness was too obvious on the page! But I’m still no expert.

Which is why, when I was given the opportunity to interview Wilma “Char” McNabb—mother of retired NFL quarterback Donovan McNabb—I might’ve been a teensy bit self-conscious.

But a few weeks ago, as we connected by phone while I nervously twirled my pen, Char immediately put my mind at ease when she told me this:

“Donovan made it to the NFL and I thought to myself, ‘Hmm, maybe it’s about time I learn what a first down is.’”

It was such a fun interview! And eye-opening, too. Because as I learned from Char, being the mom of an NFL star isn’t as easy as I might’ve imagined it. There were ups and downs and scares and hurts.

But there was also the thrill of seeing her son’s dream come true—even if it wasn’t exactly her dream in the beginning.

“I didn’t really want him to play.”

I’ll admit, I had to turn to Google to get my facts straight about Donovan McNabb. Even in my NFL naiveté, I at least knew he was an elite level player.

DonovanWilmaMcNabb11What I didn’t know is that in 2004, he became the first quarterback in NFL history to throw for more than 30 touchdowns and fewer than ten interceptions in one season. Or that he was the Eagles’ all-time leader in career wins, pass attempts, pass completions, passing yards and passing touchdowns.

But years ago, if you’d asked Char—or Mama McNabb, as she came to be known during her son’s 13-year career—about the idea of her son playing football, she’d have shaken her head.

“Well this is a mother’s perspective—no, I didn’t really want him to play,” she told me.

When he was a kid, Donovan played both basketball and baseball. It was actually his baseball coach who suggested he give football a try.

“I thought, ‘No way! He’s too little. He’s too thin.’”

But play, he did. And he made it all the way through high school and even college without too many injuries.

Then, in the 1999 NFL Draft, McNabb was drafted second overall by the Eagles. And that’s when things changed. Another player’s mom told her, “This is the NFL. He will get hurt.”

“I couldn’t turn away.”

I’ll never forget my mom once telling me one of the hardest experiences for her as a parent was the night I called her from London. I’d traveled abroad my junior year of college for an internship. It was my first night there. I’d never been so far away from home. I was jet-lagged. I was overwhelmed.

I was in tears.

And I had no idea at the time what that phone call did to my mom. While I was caught up in my own little mini-crisis, she was watching—and hurting—from afar as her daughter struggled to pursue a dream.

Char’s experience watching Donovan out on the field—her heart on the field, as she says—was probably pretty similar.

“I couldn’t turn away—I’m his biggest fan. I know there are moms who don’t watch, but I had to. If I was at home watching on TV, I’d be walking around, pacing. I couldn’t sit during the game. My heart would pound.”

And after the game, she’d often say the same thing. “When are we going to let this go and open up an ice cream shop? That’s what I’d always say.” And one time, after a particularly harsh game in Atlanta, Donovan’s wife said the same thing. “She said, ‘I’m with your mom. Let’s go open that ice cream shop.”

It wasn’t only the injuries that were a struggle—but also simply the reality of her son being in such a massive spotlight. Fans, the media, sometimes they could be cruel. “Every year I’d say, are we really going to do this again?”

But it was her son’s dream. So throughout Donovan’s eleven seasons with the Eagles, followed by a year each with the Redskins and the Vikings, they pressed on.

“It really did change my life.”

What struck me as I chatted with Char is how many times she said “we” when talking about Donovan’s career. The more we talked, the more I realized—Donovan’s career, it wasn’t just his. His whole family was involved.

When Donovan was in college, Char, a registered nurse, gave up her job working at a hospital and instead began working for a medical insurance company, so she and her husband, Sam, could attend games on weekends and holidays.

When Donovan was drafted, she shifted gears once more—helping manage Donovan’s affairs so he could focus on football.

She also became the vice president and later the president of the Professional Football Mother’s Association—an organization meant to support NFL moms. Through that organization, she got to attend the NFL Draft and also help host conferences in NFL cities. “We’d always raise money for a charitable organization in whatever city the conference was in.”

She was also the executive director of the Donovan McNabb Foundation and ran McNabb Unlimited, overseeing Donovan’s endorsements. Sam was instrumental in founding the Professional Football Players Father’s Association and Sean, Donovan’s brother, helped with throwing dinners, arranging security and more.

“It really did change our lives,” Char said. “His career meant a lot of changes for me I never would’ve expected.”

And one of those was her foray into television.

“I still have those lines memorized”

Wlima_Donovan___Sam_8x10Campbell’s Chunky Soup has had a long-standing “Mama’s Boy” ad campaign. According to this video at NFL.com, the campaign actually started back in 1997.

But Char was the very first real mom to appear in the commercial alongside her son. Previously, they’d always used actresses.

“I asked them why not just use the real mom? And they said it was because they only had a couple days to shoot the commercials—so it was easier with a trained actress.”

But that changed when Char came along. She told me they had fun shooting the commercials. She earned her nickname Mama McNabb and together, she and Donovan were the longest-running mother and son featured on the ad campaign. But she didn’t make a point to watch the commercials when they aired.

“Oh no, I didn’t like watching myself. If I walked through the room and it came on, I’d think, “Ewww!” I could see it with my eyes closed. I still have those lines memorized.”

“Sacrifice is part of a parent’s life”

Maybe it’s because my own parents have been so incredibly influential in my life that the thing I most picked up on during my conversation with Char was her mother’s heart. I could hear it woven into each story she told me about life as an NFL mom. It made me think about all the sacrifices my parents have made for my dreams.

“Sacrifice is part of a parent’s life,” Char says. “Maybe there are a lot of other things you’d like to do, but instead you’re taking your kid to practice or paying fees or buying equipment.” She’s big on parent’s encouraging their kids’ dreams. “Maybe there are times when you know better than them or you wish they’d do this or that instead. But you have to let them make decisions. You can’t push. You have support their dreams.”

She also has a heart for supporting other parents. She and her husband run a consulting business for families with kids looking to go into professional sports. She’s spoken at conferences and sports camps.

She’s written songs about her experiences. Like this one, called “When Your Heart is On The Field.”

“It’s about a mother’s perspective—watching her son play. And it’s for all mothers. Maybe your kid is a football player. Maybe she’s a writer. It’s doesn’t matter what it is—our children are our hearts.”

And currently, Char is writing a book about her experiences which she hopes will encourage other parents.

“It’s the story of how my heart made it through those thirteen years. I’d like people who read it to really feel what I felt. I know Mama McNabb isn’t the only one—there are other parents watching their kids on the field, whatever field they’re on.” 

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My thanks, once again, to Char McNabb for taking the time for this interview. She also sent me a CD of several of her songs!

Giveaway Time

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Since this article is closely tied to dreams and the mothers–or others–who support them, today I’m giving away a special Mother’s Day “Dream” package. The coolest item is a bracelet (retail value: $25) made by my talented sister, Amy Reece. Each book in my Walker Family series has a word associated with it in my mind–and From the Start‘s is “dream.” Thus, this bracelet.

The other prize package items include two DVDs fitting for both moms and dreams–The Blind Side and Sound of Music. And just for fun, a $10 gift card. This giveaway is short–it ends Thursday at 8 a.m. CST. I will overnight the package to the winner in case you’d like to use it as a last minute Mother’s Day gift.

This giveaway is open to U.S. residents only. Sorry, everyone else!

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p.s. If you don’t win the bracelet but really want one (like me!), my sister does take orders from time to time. Pretty much anytime I’m wearing cool jewelry, chances are she made it. If you’d like to get in touch with her about commissioning something, just let me know and I’ll get you her email adress.

p.p.s. You know what makes a great Mother’s Day gift?? BOOKS. Just saying. Here’s where I give a shameless plug for my own books like my new release, From the Start OR if you’d like recommendations for other great books for moms (several of my amazing friends have new releases at the moment, too), just say the word and I will start rattling off my own faves.

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    Comments 139

    1. I have to say that my husband is the biggest supporter of my dreams. He has been there for me ever since we married the day before I graduated high school. That has been almost 28 years ago.
      I loved the article Melissa. It was very touching.

    2. My parents have always been behind me, through all the good days and especially the hard ones of constantly battling health issues. I don’t know what I’d do without them!

    3. My church. I have always loved working with children. I am now a Preschool teacher for the Children’s Church. I love my “littles” as I call them. The joy on their faces when we pray and sing together warms my heart.

    4. My mom has always supported my dreams of being apart of the entertainment industry. When I was teen, I wanted to be a singer, and when I go older I wanted to focus on the BTS aspect of the industry. She has always been my number one supporter since the very beginning. My bestie is a close second.

    5. Interesting question since I’m wondering what my future dream is! Right now, it’s taking care of my 7 kids and homeschooling them. So I guess my husband has supported that dream 🙂 Couldn’t do it all without him <3

    6. Melissa, I always look forward to your blogs. You either make me giggle or inspire me. I understand the sacrifice of being an athlete mom. I’m a Baseball Mom x2. It’s wonderful, exhausting, frustrating, exciting…so many things all wrapped up together. Thanks for this great interview. <3

    7. What a wonderful post. It is easy to forget how important parents are to their kids dreams. I know we try to support ours. Probably about 17 years ago we were thinking of things we would like to do after our son was out of school, we’re still dreaming those as we were surprised with a daughter 15 years ago last October. Seems strange to think she is only a couple years younger than he was when we started those dreams. What we have done may be different but it has been just as much of an adventure.

    8. I just saw the specific question after I hit submit on my original reply. I would say my husband is my biggest supporter. He always want the best for me.

    9. I loved this wonderful interview!
      My husband and my mother are my biggest supporters and encouragers!

    10. Melissa, you blessed me with this and made me teary-eyed, too. As a caregiving mom who walked the valley with our son so many years ago, I’m thankful that God not only saw us through that time, but gave me the strength to be there for our son when exhaustion threatened.

      I’m incredibly blessed with wonderful parents, as well. My mama is such a super blessing. 🙂 And hurrah for Char! Would so love to meet that great lady!

    11. My son and daughter both play sports and I can really relate to what Mrs. McNabb says about your heart being on the field. I love watching them play, but at the same time there is a fear about them getting hurt (emotionally or physically). I loved this interview! Thanks, Melisssa.

    12. I love seeing the messages of who supports dreams for your readers. My mom and my husband have supported my dreams for years. Now my grown sons do too. I’ve worked to support theirs also, In particular my sons who wanted to play football and their was no program in out community. I worked with others so the boys all could play. I Love that bracelet!! Thanks to Mrs. McNabb for an interesting interview. I was scared to watch all the boys play on the field.

    13. My husband has always supported my dreams. We will be celebrating 10 years of marriage this August. My Mom supports me in my dreams too. I am thankful for both of them.

    14. No matter what, my husband, Steve, has always backed, encouraged me, and even picked me up and dusted me off. Unconditional love and support. My love, my life, my hero!

    15. my hubby has support my dreams and my mom did before she passed away in 1995.i love your article.God bless you and yours

    16. i am very fortunate to have several people support my dreams including my husband who is my biggest supporter, my mom and my grandmother.

    17. I just realized that I didn’t respond to the question. Oops! My mama has always biggest supporter! This year, she gets to spend Mother’s Day in the most amazing way imaginable, with Jesus!

    18. Oh my goodness, Melissa! That is so cool you got to interview Donovan McNabb’s mom! And I would agree with a lot of others who have commented- my parents have been such huge encouragers to me in so many ways!

    19. God has blessed me with an amazing friend and fellow dreamer for a roommate, Megan. She supports my dreams of publishing a book, while I support hers of dreams involving writing worship music. Having the support daily in our adult lives has truly been a blessing!

    20. What a cool article! I hope I can be as supportive of my kid’s dreams! My husband is the person who has always been there to support me and make me want to do and be more.

    21. my grandma was my dream supporter and I miss her so much! Tomorrow would have been been her birthday!

    22. My Grandma always supported my dreams. She is no longer living, but I know she is supporting me from Heaven. I loved this post

    23. My husband is my biggest supporter of my dreams. He is the one who said I could quit my job so I can do something I love and we would make it work. He knows I would love to write a book and he encourages me each day to take the leap and do it. He says I can do anything I put my mind to and whatever makes me happy.

    24. My sister. She is the one who encouraged me to start writing book reviews (and blog) when I didn’t have faith in myself. The second is my music teacher, whose influence has help me to become independent, express myself, & reach out to others.

    25. My parents, sis, and best friend Amanda have been great supporters of my writing dreams, even (and especially) when I don’t know if it’s what I want to do with my life. And they’ve been so supportive of my budding copy editor career as well.

      Melissa, I really enjoyed this article. I remember Mama McNabb in those commercials! I especially liked the glimpse at your background of journalism. I can see how great you were at that job.

      Blessings,
      Andrea

    26. When I was in high school band, my dad worked to make my dreams of going to music camps and tours a reality.

    27. Melissa,

      What an awesome interview with great wisdom. It’s true, as a parent you sacrifice but the hardest thing ever? Watching them struggle. Whatever they experience, you experience as well.

      Hugs,
      Alena T.

    28. Mom’s are wonderful!!!! I have a super amazing one!!! Thanks for the post, Melissa! Char sounds pretty amazing!

    29. I grew up watching my brothers play football. Then, my son played for a few years. I loved the details of the book. I enjoyed From The Start so much that when I finished it, I gifted it to my mother.

    30. My mother supported me through so much; Bible camp, private school, college, military service, marriage, children, moves, death of a child… life. She has demetia from an aneurysm stroke, and we now support her. Thank you, Mom!!!!

    31. First of all…I loved this interview and I loved how you touched on the truth of the hurt that can come along as you support someone you love in their dream.

      My husband has been the one to really support my dreams. As a child, teen and young adult, my family had always said “No, you really don’t want to do that. You can’t make a living at that. You need a back up plan.” It was as if something wasn’t worth doing unless it guaranteed you an income. I wandered for a long time. My husband however was all for it all immediately. He has supported me in every dream and every hope. He gave me courage to reach again.

    32. My husband and my mom have been amazingly supportive of me! I have recently started a home based independent consultant business and they have both been right by my side cheering me on and helping me! So thankful for them both!

    33. My mom and dad always supported my dreams but in recent years my youngest daughter has really been an encouragement in this area. I really need to give thanks to God who gives me the creative idea’s to make and the unconditional love to follow through no matter what the outcomes. Thanks for the interview and the opportunity to win!

    34. What a great article! My parents have always been the ones to support and encourage me. I’m very thankful for them!

    35. Wow, Melissa. What a great post. And how fun to “meet” Char McNabb. I loved hearing her mama’s heart for her boy. And the importance of supporting your children as they pursue THEIR dreams. 🙂 It’s so hard to watch them struggle, but it’s all part of what helps them become who God intends them to be.

      My parents have been incredibly supportive of me and my dreams. I wouldn’t be where I am in life without them!

    36. Melissa, I really enjoyed this blog post. My mother was always their to support my dreams when I was getting my degree in college. Even though I changed my major a couple times she was always their to give me her support.

    37. When I was in high school my dream was to join the Air Force and work with computers. My parents and my older sister Gina (who was already in the Air Force) supported me in that. Since then I would have to say my main supporter has been my husband, whom I met while we were both in the service.

    38. My husband and I got pregnant early and married early. We have six kids but when my youngest started kindergarten he supported me while I went back to school. My kids helped and sacrificed too.

    39. My daughter is very encouraging and supportive and my husband has been by my side for forty years.

    40. My husband and sisters have supported my dream of working from home as a proofreader and editor. And my teens have also, as I work in the editing cave when on a deadline! 😉

    41. Who’s a person in your life who has supported YOUR dream?

      I’d have to say my mom. My dream is to be an elementary school teacher and to share the love of learning with the next generation. My mom has supported my dream by doing things such as driving me to classes (before I got my driver’s license); encouraging me during stressful projects, finals, and classes; and just being my mom. <3 🙂

    42. My mom and dad are always strong supporters of my dreams. One is strong and gives instructions on how to improve and the other is always encouraging and pushing forward. Also my Granny because she will hear me out no matter what and give me good advice and let me know that she knows I can do whatever I am dreaming of.

    43. Thank you so much for the fantastic article. It was neat to read an NFL mom’s perspective of life and helping her son live his dreams.

      My parents have always been my number one fans and I am so thankful for their love and support. My husband as well has always championed my cause and encouraged me to follow my dreams.

      Thanks you for the great giveaway.

    44. Wonderful post! I’ve been an Eagles fan for years so of course I followed Donovan McNabb’s career and yes, the fans and media were so HARSH. I can’ t imagine how hard it was for his mother to hear those things. I always admired Donovan’s actions off the field, though. Unlike other football players who were involved in domestic abuse, sexual assaults, or criminal activities, Donovan’s actions spoke of what is really important in life. And I see that his mother was an integral part of that. Thanks for this awesome post about mothers (and the Eagles)!

      1. Me too!! I LOVE the Eagles and McNabb!! He was always my favorite, and it broke my heart when he left us!! I couldn’t bring myself to watch the game against the Redskins when he was on their team, because it was my favorite team against my favorite player on one of my most hated teams!! I didn’t know if I could handle the emotions!!
        I remember always having to defend him being my favorite!! I mean, really!? He’s DONOVAN MCNABB!! I don’t have to defend that!! I’m sure that you can agree with that 🙂
        Sorry, just had to agree with you and tell you you’re not alone in your love for the Eagles and McNabb!!
        God bless!!

        1. Ha ha, love this! I agree with you…How could the Eagles have traded him to the Redskins of all teams?? Just. So. Rude! Glad his family rises above all the criticism and that his mother is using her experiences to help others. Glad to see some Eagles love 🙂

    45. I am so thankful that the Lord has always been beside me in all my decision making and the One I go to with all my worries and troubles! Thanks for a great post Melissa!

    46. I have had several people who have supported me in my dreams. They would be my dad and mom and my husband. I am so thankful for all they have done to encourage me and pray for me.

    47. My mother was always supportive of me and my dreams. She’s been gone for many years and I still miss her every day.

    48. My mom and my husband have been my biggest supporters in everything I’ve gone through. I can’t thank God and my family enough!

    49. My husband is and has been my biggest supporter through sickness and health. I’ve been blessed to have him in my life!

    50. Both my parents have always supported my dreams, even when I kept changing them (I started college wanting to be a lawyer and left not knowing WHAT I wanted to do!!). But I want to focus on my dad here (not that he supported more than my mom, but I gush about my mom all the time :P). I have been told by my mom that my dad would have worked three jobs to put me through college if it had been necessary (thankfully, it wasn’t. He never had to get even a second job). I was lucky that my parents paid for all of undergrad, including textbooks, food, etc. I’m on my own for grad school, but they’re still here supporting me, and they’re not kicking me out of the house!!

    51. My mom always supported my dreams even when they didn’t make sense to her. Now as a parent, I realize how hard that must have been.

    52. My dream was to be a teacher. At the age of 16, I got a debilitating neurological disorder called dystonia. My dreams, I thought, were crushed. At the age of twenty, I was in a wheelchair. It took 13 years for me to be diagnosed…but before that came God sent an amazing man who married me ” like that.” ( Yes, it was said right to my face while in my wheelchair, “he married you like that?”) In 2006, I had DBS..an implant that might or might not work. We hoped. We prayed. October 2006, I walked on my own for the first time in ten years. A family who had five kids and was raising a niece came to us. They knew I couldn’t have children so, with tears, they asked us if we would like to adopt. No thinking necessary! We adopted our beautiful four year old in 2008! The dystonia continues to control my life as it is degenerative, but I am a TEACHER! I homeschool my daughter, and if there is one thing a mommy is…it is a teacher. Who supported me? My hubby who has been through more with me than anyone will ever know. My parents who made every court appearance and offered advice and comfort through the adoption process. These three and my amazing Lord made my dream a reality…perhaps different than my first one…but oh so much better!! God is good.

    53. My husband always supports me in my dreams and encourages me. I use to paint when I was young and having kids was no time for things I like . So now I am going to try to get into painting pictures again. I going to see how this adventure will go. But I do know as this verse says, I can do it!! Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthen me”. So I guess you can say I have Christ on my side also.
      Blessings
      Diana

    54. My parents supported my dream of being a teacher, even when others told me not to. I got a teaching job right out of college and am still fulfilling my dream. I now have the chance to support my daughter in her dream of going to college and then working for the FBI.

    55. My husband has supported me for more than 40 years, and now my daughter is one of my closest cheerleaders as well.

    56. What a great interview. Really enjoyed it. Myself as I really haven’t had anyone support my dreams.

    57. Well, I am huge NFL football fan, so I at least know what a “first down” is, but all those positions???? I still the roles confused. What a great interview and compliment to your wonderful book. Char is an inspiration and a reminder that some folks use their national platform in many constructive ways.

    58. My mom is my biggest fan & inspiration..she has always supported me through the years, has helped me raise 3 boys & is proud of me just because 🙂
      Thank you for the great giveaway!

    59. Thanks for the wonderful post! My prayer partner and my church family support me in achieving the Lord’s dreams for me.

    60. What a neat interview! All I knew about him before was the soup commercials 🙂

      My mom, like most, has always tried to get me to “promote” myself and let everyone know how great she thinks I am!

    61. I’d have to say husband because my dream was to homeschool our 2 children and he supported and encouraged me in that. We graduated both kids after schooling K-12. They are both married and now new parents, so I’m a Nana! Thanks for the interview and giveaway!

    62. Great interview! And fun giveaway. You’re a genius, MTagg. So grateful for my Mama who was and remains a Godly encourager and lover of Jesus. She is dutiful and faithful, and just a great example of loving well.

      Rachel

    63. My mom has been my biggest cheerleader for the longest period of time in my life and my dear husband supports me in everything I do…when I volunteer to teach in Vacation Bible School he is there to help decorate my room…he’s tall so I don’t need a ladder, that’s a plus. Thanks for the opportunity to win…the bracelet is awesome! Linda

    64. What a great interview! I barely know what a first down is – Hubby loves football but explaining it to me is a feat! 😉
      My parents and my husband are both big supporters of my dreams. My parents instilled in me a drive and confidence to accomplish whatever I set out to do. And my husband supports those endeavors whether it be with encouraging words or taking the kiddo out for the day so I can be undistracted.

    65. My husband is so supportive of every dream I’ve ever had, and has made many of them come true just by being him and being there for me.

    66. There were 3 people who supported me in my dreams, my mom, grandma and my aunt. They were my biggest supporters and loving support. I miss all 3 of them very much.

    67. This interview is a good example of how mothers support the dreams of their children even when it’s not their dream.

    68. my parents were and still are very supportive and I hope that I continue to give support to my grown children. My daughter is now an athletic trainer and feels as if she is a mom at times to all her college athletes. Definitely get a behind the scenes look as we watch her care for so many.

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